The 3 Second Rule

Life Is Truly Short. And now is the time. Not tomorrow. Not next week. Not next year.

How do I know this?

Because of what just happened – and because I’m an old fuck, who is looking back upon days of glory that happened 10, 20, 30 years ago. Days that are gone forever. Lost moments, frozen in time; that now only exist in some dusty corner of that magical library we call memory.

And when I am gone…. it will all be gone too.

So live that life you want to live while you have the chance. Make it happen. This is real talk, not just a proverb. It will haunt you if you don’t!

Like I keep saying throughout this blog, you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. We all do it. Even after 30+ years in the game, I still do it sometimes.

Like fucking today. I’ll be damned if I didn’t do it today. This just happened…

When you are getting older, it’s more common that you will be feeling like garbage. No excuses – but it gets harder. Had insomnia last night til 9am because of back pain. So to say that I was feeling rough today would be a bit of an understatement. Wasn’t even planning on setting foot outside my door.

Pulling was literally the last thing on my mind. I had subconsciously written it off even as a possibility (bad idea!)

I needed some plywood sheets for a cabinet I am making. Decided to just roll down to the local hardware store – 5 mins drive – and grab them.

Didn’t even occur to me AT ALL to be prepared for the game, physically or mentally. Just feeling too garbage and preoccupied with making it through my day to even consider it. And tbh just not even giving a fuck. Or at least, thinking that I didn’t give a fuck. (I was wrong about that; who was I kidding?)

I have this badass jacket and always wear cool boots, so I slung my jacket on and off I went. Whatever. Didn’t even look in the mirror.

Got my plywood. Came out of the store.

And then fuck me.

Walking across the parking lot right in front of me was the most unbelievably gorgeous 19-20yo raven haired beauty I have literally EVER seen in this part of the world.

A perfect 10. A real one. I absolutely kid you not. As fine as fine can be. Just randomly wandering past the hardware store in a boring town on a boring day.

She even gave her hair a shake and a quick preen as she crossed my field of view, not even 5 yards away from me. What?? Signs of attraction?? Me??

Nobody else in this parking lot right now bro!

But.. but… I’m old, tired and unshaven and…

I was so down on myself and my demoralized insomniac state, that I just let her walk on by – without even so much as a “What’s up, raven sista?”

That’s all it would have taken.

I even had my catch card with me. And to my eternal shame…. I just let her walk right on by… and out of my life, probably forever. Got in my car and drove away. I think she was even watching me drive off.

Too late. Game over.

You probably do this every day. Yes you do. Most men in fact, probably do this every day. Ever think to yourself that you don’t get laid enough? That means you are doing this. Admit it. I just did.

You never know when you are going to run into the girl of your dreams. It could happen any time and anywhere, literally.

Will you be ready to catch?

Of course, living out in bumfuck the chances are she probably won’t be just wandering by. But every so often… she will be. And you have to be prepared to catch at any time. ANY time. Because this is how it goes!

And sometimes, you’ve only got 3 seconds to make your move…

Being ready to catch makes magic happen. Trust me.

Life is full of windows of opportunity. They open – sometimes so very briefly – and those who are prepared – mentally and physically – will seize the moment. Those who aren’t, lose.

No excuses are allowed – because life truly doesn’t give a shit. Taking action – right now – is the only thing that matters in this world – because winning is everything.

“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” This applies not just to beautiful women who pop up out of nowhere, but to everything else in life. Quite often, there are opportunities that only come around once and then the moment is lost, never to return! Sometimes you have to show ’em what you got, at the drop of a dime. Could you do that? Could you? Right now?

Now of course you might not be feeling “on”, but champions don’t feel on 100% of the time. They have their good days and their bad days but they still show up and are still champion despite the bad days.

You would do so much better at 50% of your peak form than 0% because you didn’t even bother to take a shot… because you told yourself you were not “on” today or whatever other excuse you made.

So to wrap this up: In the game we used to apply a thing called the 3 Second Rule. It was Mystery and Matador, I believe, who developed it. Mad props to those guys! The concept is this: Between the moment you spot a woman you are attracted to, and the moment you go for it, you have 3 seconds, maximum. That’s all you are allowed. 3-2-1 go! If you dither and hesitate, not only do you often miss the window of opportunity, but your lack of confidence also comes across as weak and purposeless, which is unattractive. A man of purpose knows what he wants, believes he deserves to get it and has no qualms about doing something about it.

ALSO – the longer you leave it, the more the “hamster wheel” starts turning – of excuses, concerns, fears, “what ifs” and whatever other mental / emotional baggage your subconscious can throw in the path to derail you and sabotage you.

Instead of clicking right into gear today, I literally talked myself out of it because my “frame” was completely bent out of shape. It was only when I was half a mile down the road that I realized what I should have done. And what I am! Goddamn it, I’m not some piece of shit! I just had a sleepless night and have back pain, that’s all! I have lived a life of badass adventures worldwide and am wearing the coolest jacket she’s probably ever seen in this part of the world! No surprise she was attracted to me, really. I do have what she wants, after all.. I really do. πŸ˜‰

But retrospect is a b*tch. You gotta get your frame straight BEFORE you head out the door. It takes 5 seconds! You are worth it! Look in the mirror and tell yourself that.

She’s probably bored, horny and longing for someone to come along and show her a great time…

The 3 second rule WORKS. It’s absolutely the right mindset to be in. When you get to the point where you can “click in” in 3 seconds and start gaming, no matter whether you slept or what… you are officially in the major league. Just this fix I promise you will change your life!

Another fuckup is assuming that you are unattractive and being so convinced of that, that you fail to notice and act upon genuine signs of interest by someone else.

I mean, whose standards matter in that moment? Yours or hers? If she is stunning and wants to fuck you, do you really want to talk her (or yourself) out of it because you don’t feel at your best? Really? πŸ™‚

Attraction is natural. It’s normal! Nature took care of that part for you bro. So if she is into you and all the signs are there, does it really matter whether you feel like she “ought to be”? Hell no! Recognize the signs, reward IOIs with IOIs and make your move, my man. 3-2-1 go!

Anyway there you go. Game lesson of the day. Let my loss be your gain. If this reaches ONE person and causes something amazing to happen, my work is done.

My Friend With The 1000+ Lay Count – Detailed Analysis Of His Game – How To Get 1000 Lays

I have a friend who claims a 1000+ lay count – and while I know it “sounds like bullshit”… I actually totally believe him. I hung out with this friend on a regular basis over the course of about 15 years and I watched his game consistently throughout that time. We were good pals and had a lot of adventures together.

He’s a self-proclaimed “old fuck” now in his 60’s and considers himself “retired from the game”. But this friend, despite being to all intents and purposes a “regular dude”, was bedding women left, right and center – and racked up the kind of score that most people think is only achieved by rock stars, elite athletes, nightclub owners and royalty of bygone eras.. He claimed over 100 lays in one year in his younger days – and I believe that too! He had no reason whatsoever to lie, is not trying to impress anyone and in fact kept this information concealed from almost everybody – as it might have damaged his social reputation significantly to have this info out there. Only a very few people (I am guessing about 3 in total) knew the actual truth – and I happened to be one of them.

So you are probably assuming he was ridiculously good looking, or wealthy, or whatever it is that most people think you would need to be and do in order to be incredibly successful with women…

And you would be absolutely dead wrong!

What’s interesting about this dude is that he was NOT spectacularly good looking, or in any way affluent. He also did not dress up super sharp. He was not super intelligent. He was not famous, or an elite athlete, or at the top of his field in anything, really. He was not super tall. He was not super ripped. He wasn’t super anything!

He also never studied pickup under some super-guru. I don’t think he ever spent a dollar on a “dating product”….


I know, right?! How the hell can all of the above be true? It flies in the face of everything you ever read or heard about “men who get laid like rockstars”! People all over the internet are telling you (as if they fucking know!) that in the 21st century you need to be an “alpha chad” sports champion, movie star, famous singer or male model, otherwise your genes are basically confined to the dustbin of history. Well…. they are all wrong, friends.

So I had much time to analyze the game of my friend and break down what he was doing, because over the years we probably went to upwards of 200 parties, shows or events together (I’ve lost count to be honest) and hung out on many other occasions too. I learned – purely by years of careful observation – that my friend pretty much had a consistent “pulling method”. Nothing particularly elaborate or advanced. Here are the fundamentals of what he did, together with my insights:

1) He stayed in great shape. Not in any sort of “Oh wow look at him, is he on the cover of Men’s Health” sort of way. But he looked after himself. He went to the gym on a regular basis (2 to 3x per week I think), went running weekly and generally took great care of his health, eating healthy organic food and so on. This was absolutely consistent throughout the years I knew him. He was fit. He stayed looking younger than his real age throughout the time I knew him. He had also studied dance at college and although he didn’t really show off on the dance floor very often, he did have a bit of that ‘dancer physique’. I think this was an asset. He was decent looking, but he didn’t have a spectacular “model face”, or ripped abs or biceps, or anything that isn’t within reach of the majority of us. At a guess I would say his height was 5’10”. He also had an average size dick. (I accidentally saw it once and wish I hadn’t. Can’t unsee, as they say). But anyway – overall he was more concerned with health and fitness than with looks in the abstract sense.

2) He didn’t dress super stylish or wear expensive designer threads but did choose clothes that were fitted – tighter fit, nothing baggy and had a decent “cut” that gives a bit of a lift to the physique. Nothing really fancy though. No tattoos or ostentatious jewelry. No expensive haircut. No sports car. No social media following.

3) He APPROACHED like crazy. He approached women at EVERY opportunity. And I mean every opportunity. He CREATED opportunity out of thin air. Seriously. We would be driving along and if he spotted a woman he was attracted to on the opposite sidewalk, he would literally loop around, park the truck, get out and go and approach. If he saw a beautiful woman, he instantly went for it. No hesitation. He would go up to them and just say hi and be really friendly, in a very upbeat positive good mood, chat for 1 minute, ask a few questions and then GIVE THEM HIS CARD and tell them to get in touch if they wanted to go for a drink. (This phraseology was, I believe quite important. “Go for a drink” conveys that he had amorous intentions, without being sleazy about it.) And then he would move on, never lingering too long.

He never asked them for their number, he gave his card. This, too, I see as important. Giving a card means someone can take it without awkwardness.. and then just not call if they are not interested – whereas asking for a number puts pressure on the person because if they are not into you, they know they are going to have to deal with you at some point. Giving a card makes the lady feel safer.

He was always polite, friendly, smiling and sort of lightly flirtatious. Nothing heavy. But he did this very consistently, for years. He would approach in the supermarket, on the sidewalk, in cafes… anywhere and everywhere.

So it was literally meat-and-potatoes “numbers game”. He would do several approaches per day, every single day of every single year. And when we were going to big events and stuff, it might be at least 20 in an evening. At “all dayer” events and festivals it would be non stop for the whole day / weekend / whatever. So in total he was making literally thousands of approaches per year for 40 years. We went out a lot. If we were at a party he would introduce himself to all the women and chat and flirt. I watched him “do the rounds”. And then later, sure enough, I would go out back and there he would be with some woman, fooling around in the back of his car. Out in public he would do a quick intro and give his card, but at events, if there was chemistry he would start to move it forward there and then, and might offer a hand massage or something similar, which would escalate things if there was something there to escalate. And if not… next…

I watched him do super bold, ballsy approaches on occasions. Example – woman sitting with 3 men at a 4 seat table in a busy cafe. Lunchtime. Who would even bother?? My friend would, that’s who. He said “watch this”, went up to the table and literally said to her, “I am sure I recognize you” or some BS. She said “no, I don’t think so”. He said “ok, well if you suddenly remember, here is my card, give me a call some time.” And then walked off! Job done!!! πŸ˜€ Now there is a 99% chance she just tossed the card but if you do this type of stuff 1000 times, there are going to be some women who call you up because they were attracted to you. And women do tend to like a man who goes for what he wants. You can see that in this situation he turned a 0% chance into a 1% chance. Do this enough times and you will have created all kinds of opportunities from situations that most people pass by!

4) He did not have super smooth talk. In fact a lot of his talk I thought was a bit cringe. He didn’t have incredible “pickup chat”. It was all a bit ham. It didn’t matter!

5) He was fearless. He had ZERO fear of approaching and ZERO fear of getting rejected / told to get lost. He assumed that 80%+ wouldn’t be interested and he was UTTERLY unfazed. It was water off a duck’s back and it just rolled off him if a woman showed disinterest. He never took it in the least bit personally, he just moved right on to the next woman! This I believe is a real key honestly. Most people talk themselves out of putting their bid in and subconsciously self-sabotage through fear of rejection. But you gotta play in order to win!

He very rarely got ‘hard rejected’ when approaching because he wasn’t a massive dick about it. He kept it fun and light and if the vibe wasn’t good he would quickly cut his losses and eject. Overall he was just friendly and flirty, chatted up a LOT of women and moved every situation forward if it was possible to do so. I also never heard of some other jealous dude throwing a punch at him. People in general tend to assume that approaching is way more risky than it really is.

6) He was not trying to be James Bond. He didn’t care about having gravitas, or being super slick, or trying to impress the fuck out of anyone – male or female. He didn’t have some giant ego or have the need to always appear cool as ice. He often made a bit of a fool of himself; didn’t give a flying fuck. There’s more than one way to the top of this mountain. To emphasize the point that he was never boastful about his “achievement” – I knew him for well over 15 years before he even mentioned “the numbers”. I knew he was always “on the pull” but I literally had no idea of his scores before that. He absolutely NEVER carried around an attitude of “Look at me, I bang more women than you”. If anything, he was a stealth operator. Flew under the radar and kept his private life private – for wise reasons.

7) He was NEVER pushy if there was resistance or a negative reaction. If he got negative signals he would just instantly fall back and move on. Total abundance mindset and he knew there were tons more women, so if one wasn’t picking up what he was putting down, another one would, so he didn’t waste any time. And he NEVER got “one-itis” – that fixation on one woman that so many men get.

8) He wasn’t as picky as the rest of us. I was always SUPER picky and wanted only the 9’s and 10’s. As a result I didn’t score anything like as many wins as my friend. He was happy with everything that was a 5+ and we teased the fuck out of him for this. It didn’t bother him in the slightest. But sometimes he did get 9’s and 10’s too.

9) He seemed to be always horny. He was totally preoccupied with bedding women and with the “beautiful strange”. It was a compulsion. He clearly had a high sex drive. But he didn’t just stay home watching porn. I don’t know for sure, but I have a strong feeling that he might have never watched porn at all. He also never seemed to feel sorry for himself. He was overall positive, took action and enjoyed the fuck out of his life.

10) I don’t necessarily condone what he did. You might not want to be like him and in truth I think he had issues with holding down a relationship.

But there is certainly a lot that can be learned from his game and his overall approach to life. A smooth operator who got laid like a rockstar, completely under the radar.

There you go. That is literally about everything I can think of. In summary – the simple and plain difference between what my friend did and what most men don’t do is simply that he had the balls to go for it. If he was attracted, he always approached. I never, EVER saw him get “approach freeze”. He always carried a fun vibe around with him. And he consistently took action. Every. Single. Time. And most men don’t. They don’t take action. They don’t have the balls to go for it. And so they literally watch beautiful women walk past… and out of their life forever… every day.

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take….

Example Of A Dude With Incredible Game

update: I guess they took the tiktok channel down, which is a damn shame. Here’s his Instagram. The old videos were a treat but there is still some very interesting stuff up in this Insta:

(the comments are a hoot. The amount of cynisism is off the charts, you can literally put the game out there in plain view and people will just not get it. Hear the swooshing noise as all the subtlety and nuance flies a million miles over their heads. They are seething with jealousy because they will never in a million years be able to pull of what this dude has pulled off and they know it. And the other 50% of comments are from girls wanting to join his harem.)



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Random click on Tiktok and found a dude with ridiculous levels of game. Literally one of the strongest I have seen for quite a while. I picked one of his videos to do a “game breakdown” for you and give you a very detailed rundown of what is going on.

Let’s dig in. In this video he does a “20 second seduction” and makes a girl horny for him at warp speed. It’s fun, clever, super fast paced – and absolute textbook seductive game. There is SO much you can learn from this guy. It’s not often you get to see a true Master Player in action, so take notes! πŸ™‚

He pretty much has it all down, honestly. I can’t find much to fault and you can imagine from the reactions of these girls (they are gazing at him adoringly in all his videos) that he is getting a superabundance of whatever TF he wants.

Now the detractors are immediately going to say “he’s amazingly good looking” and while that is true, that is by no means the only thing he has got going on. He is running MASSIVE amounts of pure game. Let’s break it down.

Looks wise – he has natural good looks for sure, but he sure knows how to make the absolute best of himself. He clearly works out and has cut abs. He has cool tattoos. His hair is on point and very well cared for. I had a skim through the channel; he is perfectly groomed and exceptionally well dressed in all his videos. From the black leather jacket – a classic “hot guy” look that never goes out of style – to the white tailored shirts and suits – everything is faultlessly put together. Most of the videos seem to be of him styling himself up in the mirror. Looking good is not just something that he was born with, it is something that he gives massive attention and focus to. It’s his art and evidently occupies much of his time and focus. It’s all in the preparation and it’s a TON of work to have such high level presentation.

He is also peacocking – unafraid to draw attention to himself with plentiful jewelry and multiple “show pieces” that communicate huge confidence and status. Peacocking takes some balls because you have to rise above the typical fear of being singled out that most people have, and be unafraid to be noticed and to claim a magnified visual identity for yourself. You have absolutely every right to do this but most people are simply too timid, seeking instead to blend in and avoid the flak! Peacocking is a big part of the reason women go for rock stars and dandies. Being unafraid of the other males communicates alpha status.

However it’s not just the looks. There are a LOT of other things he is doing:

1) Projecting pure amorous intensity. He knows just how to pull the girls in for the “screen kiss” moments. Much of this intensity is projected through the “laser eye contact” and body language.

2) He leads. In the video shown, watch how he communicates non-verbally to the girl what he wants her to do. The “set is hooked” (she’s very obviously massively into him) and so she complies willingly with whatever he wants her to do. Note how she is always in a state of uncertainty as to what is going to happen next, and he leads her through a roller coaster ride of emotions – this is perfect game. He has great execution of all his “moves” and knows just when to amp up the sexual tension with sudden “gear changes” of pace.

3) Posture. He “carries himself” very well, with a physical posture that demonstrates confidence and swagger. Shoulders back. Head up.

4) Dominance. At every stage he controls what she does, in that certain way that she loves. There are numerous displays of dominance in this video – can you spot them? Game recognize game!

5) Push-pull. He is an absolute MASTER of push-pull. Most of the videos on this account are in fact centered completely on push-pull as a theme – and they are a clever series of mimes where the characters tease each other massively; building romantic anticipation before deliberately breaking rapport and leaving the other person wanting more. It’s quite amazing in fact that they are continuously creating new and inventive ideas around this theme.

6) It’s all FUN. Everything the dude does keeps it focused on fun, sensuality, charm, flirtation and sexual energy. There is nothing outside of that. Nothing else exists! This is very deliberate – it is the conjuror’s art.. the place where magic becomes real. The whole thing takes place in a sort of fairytale world where everything is “light” in the sense of being exciting and “good vibes”.

7) He leaves her wanting more. Our player builds her up to a volcano-like moment of passion and then drops her like a stone RIGHT before their lips touch! He deliberately does a massive take-away. Then turns back to her, building her hopes again… but instead of the eagerly anticipated kiss, pushes the candy cane into her mouth (more “sexual compliance training”!) At the end of the scene, he ejects without needing anything at all from her and without giving a damn that he left her unfulfilled. All of the above only serves to make her long for him even more. Look how disappointed she is when he doesn’t actually kiss her! She’s truly uncertain as to whether she is actually going to get him (remember, women LOVE this). It’s a key element in seduction. If she feels as though she’s “got you”, all the heat dissipates. This is a huge part of why most men fail. They literally hand themselves over on a plate. Women HATE it; they want the man that they can surrender to more deeply, not who will surrender to her – and men just don’t get it!

8) Note the clever use of props. The hairband. The candy cane pushed into her mouth (this is a very dominant sexual move) with a symbolic unspoken statement of “I’m the one who hands out the sugar”. Nothing is accidental. The scene is choreographed to give the appearance that the dude has everything planned out like a chess game, whereas the lady has absolutely no idea. The male part is certainly worked out in detail but we don’t actually know whether she knew what was about to happen. Either way, it is masterful mime theater. Very very cleverly done.

9) Note the phenomenal kino escalation. He knows how to seduce like crazy! It’s a good thing the video is on loop because it moves fast and you need to watch it several times to get all the details. One of my fav moves is where he gets her to put her hands above her head and then when he has her “pinned” (this is in fact a technique called mental bondage – she is not in fact pinned by anything other than the fact that he instructed her to do it and then left her there) he does not proceed right to tying her hands with the hairband but pauses unbuttons his shirt deliberately and provocatively, stripping for her momentarily in a theatrical, sexual way while maintaining laser eye contact. THEN reaches up and dominantly takes her hair band with a sweeping move, as though he has every right to. She fucking loves it. Guaranteed wet for him inside 30 seconds. Mental bondage is a fascinating seduction technique in its own right. The fact that someone can be “bound” by a command creates a kind of reinforcement of compliance. It’s almost like a magic spell…

10) Rapid fire. His sequence of seductive moves happens at super-fast pace. Like a series of ninja moves, choreographed dance or a complex sequence of punches thrown by a pro fighter. So much happens in so little time that if you did not know what you were looking at, you could be forgiven for not even noticing! The pace, timing and expertise is masterful and all part of the game. It happens so quick it leaves her breathlessly excited for more.

11) Social proof. You seldom see him on his own. In most of his videos he has attractive women with him. This communicates to the other women that he has an abundance of women in his life – which signals that he is highly desired and makes them desire him even more. Players exploit this on purpose and will for example roll into the club with several women. The nightclub player might not be sleeping with any of them – but can you see how much more desirable this guy immediately becomes than the typical “group of lads” who roll in together?

12) It’s “written in the language of women”. The whole thing demonstrates massive expertise in what women respond to. You could argue that the videos are all written in “chick language”. It’s the language of romance novels. It’s loaded with sensuality and with the stuff that women adore.

13) Open loops. The moment portrayed in this video is not an isolated event but is part of a greater storyline. Like a romance novel, the girl is left eager for the next chapter. This is another seduction technique – storytelling. “Open loops” are unanswered questions in the mind; these are deliberately placed there in order to create intrigue and make her want more.

14) He gets away with being a total cad, dandy and player – and in fact they love him for it. NOTE that there are a LOT of things that these girls in his videos don’t mind at all… things that men are often taught not to be and not to do:

β€’ They don’t mind at all that he spends hours preening in front of the mirror and is evidently in love with himself. He’s an absolute attention whore. “Your attention” is even the by-line of this channel! I’ve known other men like this too. One guy I knew was a hip hop vocalist and the girls used to joke that he brought more lotions and potions on the road and spend more time in front of the mirror than they did! Then later they would bang him… the dude was pretty short too – but he bedded many fine women.

β€’ They don’t mind at all that he has all kinds of other girls and that they can’t have him all to themselves (they are happy just to get a piece of him!) If you were to look at this objectively, you would conclude that he is an absolute dog. Does that bother these ladies in the slightest? Doesn’t seem to! Seems to just make them want him all the more! No doubt a million others would volunteer to take their place. It’s off the charts. The dude literally spends his life gaming and has made a career out of it.

β€’ They don’t mind that things happen super-fast. They can go from just standing around to full on passionate moment in 1 second. Once again the “standard rules” of waiting til the third date go completely out of the window for “the hot guy”. And she will say afterwards “it just happened”.

β€’ She doesn’t mind at all that HE does things “without asking permission”. She absolutely loves it. This is crucial to get right though. Just because you saw him do it, you can’t and absolutely mustn’t just go up to some random girl and try this if you don’t know exactly what you are doing. I hope this makes sense. It seems paradoxical because on the surface he seems to break all the rules. But if you look carefully, you can see that at no point does he do anything that would make her uncomfortable – and he knows exactly what he is doing. At every step of the way she signals compliance, comfort and a positive reaction to everything he is doing. Can you spot all those signals? A good seducer is an expert at reading non-verbal cues and pays great attention to them. If there is discomfort or resistance, he would back off. Everything is designed to raise her enjoyment and excitement of the moment and to show her a good time! If she freezes over, you lose! Note how perfectly calibrated all his moves are. He’s taking her for a magic carpet ride – the kind that only a master seducer can take a woman on, the kind she dreams about but so rarely comes along.

Make no mistake, this fellah, whoever he is, is a Master of the Game. Look at the body language of the girls. The wide eyed adoring looks. The excitement. 3.6M followers on Tiktok and I would be willing to bet he gets THOUSANDS of “please fuck me” type messages….. his inbox must be an absolute train wreck. πŸ™‚ Many women never get to experience the touch of a master seducer and although it’s taboo to admit, they want this more than just about anything. Yes they do! To the uninitiated, what I just wrote would be vehemently disagreed with. But it is solid fact: Years ago, when VH1 ran their series “The Pickup Artist”, the winner of the contest was bombarded by messages from women – not hating on him for being a player… but wanting him to meet up with them and pick them up!! So when you hear women say that they hate players, come back to this video and look at the smile on her face… the adoring eyes… the eagerness… and decide for yourself! πŸ™‚

End of lesson! Compare his seduction style with Sean Connery as James Bond – and if you like these detailed “game breakdowns” of videos let me know, I enjoy doing them!

Women Love Simps (Just Not For Sex)

Can you spot what is wrong with this picture?

(copied for study purposes only “fair use”)


Profile was of a very good looking 19yo woman. Very hot. I would say for certain 9+ in looks. Amazing body. Banging thigh gap. Not a “10 hot” but not far off! She definitely had the goods alright.

You would. I would. We all would.

And she knows it.

Now if you fall for this load of BS that she has served up right here, and you start chasing her, then it completely serves you right if you get what is coming to you, which is a rinsing of the wallet and no sex whatsoever, except with your own hand of course. Let’s unpack this in detail.

1) She is very well socialized. She goes skiing and parties a lot. She’s been hit on probably 1,000+ times and her inbox probably has hundreds of messages in it (from thirsty fools).

2) Her sense of self-worth (and entitlement) are through the roof and this is continually validated by the large amount of admirers / orbiters that she undoubtedly has.

3) Ski resorts are upscale. There are plenty of affluent men there and she is used to being around men who “lead with their money” aka. “tricking off their paper”.

4) She has 0.0000000000 sexual interest in these men. ZERO. That line “there is nothing sexier than a generous man who knows how to treat a girl” is total BAIT designed to set you up. Its a trap for the clueless. She has already put the disclaimer in the next para. “Online interactions only.” In other words… she is never (and I really mean never) going to f*** you… she is never even going to meet up with “daddy”… and has set up a complete firewall. Her frame is that if you want her (screen) time and attention, she will provide a ration (the bare minimum)… if you pay… and you better pay good because “she’s worth it”. And she can end it, permanently, with one click… any time she wants. You might get rewarded with an online peep show that is less than what you could get for free somewhere else anyway. If you fall into that frame.. well.. good luck amigo.

5) She is a skilled player even before the age of 20! There are tons of them out there now and social media has created the ultimate on-ramp for this despicable “thotpocalypse” scenario to flourish. What was once frowned upon has now become completely normalized; the world is now a gold-digger’s paradise, the like of which has never been seen before in human history! This young woman has figured out how to get her bills paid and lifestyle financed without barely having to lift a finger – and she is very probably surrounded by other young women who are all schooling each other in the game and competing for points by trying to land the biggest “whale” (cashed-up idiot) they can find. It only serves to increase her sense of self worth, the further these chumps go in their desperate attempts to get with her and how far they are willing to abase themselves in their attempts.

6) That’s not to say she is not horny. Oh believe me, she is horny. Just not for simps. I would highly counsel to NEVER message women like these first. She’s screening for hot guys, believe me. But probably doesn’t look in her DM’s because she knows that isn’t where she is gonna find him! Because the hot guy has better things to do than be messaging the likes of her! If she messages you first, then either a) you already showed off your affluence (more fool you!), in which case she is trying to catch your wallet, or b) you are an extremely good looking stud who has shown total disinterest – and she WANTS. If that is the case, she will be attempting to meet up with you without laying any of the above ground rules, barriers or conditions.

7) That’s right. The kind of man she chases is the one who shows her total indifference. That sets him immediately apart. Why can’t she wrap him round her finger like all the other boys? He has no need of her whatsoever, because he has an abundance in his life. If you had 100 girls of this calibre messaging you, would you really give a shit about her? Not really? Like buses, another would be along in 5 minutes. Hey, don’t blame me for the way nature made us.

8) You can’t fake it. If you have simp tendencies she will flush them out in an instant. She has a radar for all this that is more fine-tuned than you would possibly believe. It’s literally what she was built for. It’s a bit of a stretch to call it a killer instinct, but it is not far from that. It is biologically hardwired into her to go for the hottest, strongest, most in-demand man she can find. And when she’s fucking him, she doesn’t give a DAMN about what is in his wallet. If there was truly “nothing sexier than a man who wanted to bankroll her lifestyle” (‘scuse me while I puke), she would NOT be saying online only. She would be saying “When can we fuck”?

And she DOES say this! Just not to simps, ever. Ever ever ever! (You can game her though. Bear that in mind. You don’t have to be a 6’4″ snowboard champ if you’ve got super solid game.)

Check this one out. She even put simp in her hashtags!! (dying)

(copied for study purposes only “fair use”)

See? She LOVES simps! They pay her bills! But when the hot guy comes along… you can bet your life that it’s as though she is playing by a completely different rule book. And that’s because she is! She will literally treat these men as though they are a completely different species. In her mind, there is absolutely no dichotomy here and it’s an absolute waste of time attempting to point out the double standard. And you categorize women too! Yes you do. She’s either hot or she’s not.

The kind of future life this is ultimately setting her up for is probably not going to be pretty. It’s all bad, in my view. She might think she has it made – but us old dogs know that anything you get without having to work for, comes around to bite you in the ass in the end. Yes it does. Male, female or otherwise; there are no short cuts to a truly high quality life.. Free handouts are toxic; sugar may taste sweet… but it rots your teeth and gives you cancer. Spending her prime years sitting around in her panties is developing her life skills about as much as simping is developing a man’s. We are all being played by big tech, ultimately. This is their game and we all lose…

Never, ever fall into her frame. You are a man. That means you live on your terms and not some “negotiated surrender” with an entitled chick. If she “sets the hoop” and you jump through it… thinking it’s gonna get you somewhere… you are on the slippery slope to simpdom. Any advances you make will be brushed off like a fly.

Solution: Work on yourself until these women start blowing up your inbox. If they don’t? Keep working. Self improvement is THE key to winning this game. Don’t waste a NANOSECOND on anything else. And NEVER CHASE. If she isn’t chasing you, who TF cares? Get on with building your awesome life. Imagine how amazing you would be if you spent every second of that time working out, working on your business and cultivating your look, that you had spent writing to girls who never wrote back, flaked or gave you the runaround… it’s a choice at the end of the day and what you choose to do with your precious time matters more than just about anything in this world.

These girls differentiate and categorize men completely and absolutely. “Alpha fucks, beta bucks.” It’s absolute objectification, which is what social media is training us to do. Acquire, consume, discard. You don’t want to be in the beta category. It’s miserable. But, contrary to popular opinion, where you end up is completely in your hands. You are the one who has to work on your life and make yourself into the kind of person you are truly proud of. Women are a bonus, not your goal.

“True pimp n****s spend no dough on the booty” – Notorious BIG (you see now?)

Is She Ignoring You? Here’s What To Do:


Is she ignoring you? Here’s what to do.


Are you really the best version of yourself that you could possibly be? Are you?

If so, then fantastic. I salute you! If she ignores you, then forget her. She doesn’t get you and that probably means the problem is her. Nothing you can do about it. Forget her and move on. There are a million other girls and you are a man of options… aren’t you?

If NOT….. then get your shit together!

It starts with the basics. Get your money straight, get your health straight, get your self care straight, get your look straight, get your pad straight, get your car fixed, get fit, get out of debt.

Have you honestly done all those things?

As the saying goes, if you want to fuck someone, start by being someone worth fucking.

Fix yourself up, man of God. πŸ˜‰ Put YOURSELF first. Put YOURSELF back on that pedestal. Nothing to do with her.

Stride out of your front door in the morning with a purpose, with a smile and with a new shirt.

Stop chasing after girls on social media. Stop supplicating and acting nice in the hope that she will see what a good guy you are. Stop that! You have more important things to do.

Even more so… Stop giving money and gifts to girls. Especially some girl on the internet you are NOT having an actual real life not-on-the-internet relationship with. Internet “relationships” do not count. Stop it. Your money is for YOU. You buying some chick gifts and new clothes? You better not be! That money is for YOU. Your money you earned with YOUR hard work and YOUR skills. Women want equality… so let them pay their own way just like you pay yours.

Don’t get hung up on some girl. Any girl. It’s not worth it, trust me. Put all your energy into YOU. Your self improvement. Your path. Your career. Your dreams.

Girls are not your dreams. Girls are a BONUS you get from life when you are living your dreams. Soon as you chase the girl instead of your dreams, you stop chasing your dreams and you lose the girl as well as your dreams!!!!

Now get cracking.

Enjoy The Ride

“It’s Just A Ride” – Bill Hicks

The old school pimps used to have a saying to keep their feelings in check and give them perspective when dealing with their girls. “Ho’s come and go, cop and blow”.

Now what does this mean and how is it relevant to you square players? πŸ˜‰

Essentially it means that, a woman is a woman and she could do anything at any time for any reason or for no reason at all. She could literally be gone tomorrow. You might realistically never see her again. This is of course a stone cold fact. And so, you temper your expectations and get on with your life.

You should aim to reach the point where you are absolutely 100% unruffled if a girl you are dating blows you out. Who cares, seriously? If someone cares about you, then care about them. But if they don’t care about you and demonstrate that, why should you continue to care about them? The only thing you lost is someone who doesn’t love you, and that is no loss at all! Like buses, another one will be along in 5 minutes… especially if you are chill and carefree. And besides – you have an amazing life to be getting on with anyway… don’t you…? You damn well should have and if not, you better fix that first! Because it is YOUR life that you should be inviting her along for the ride with. You don’t change and mold your life around her – unless you are crazy – because the more you do that, the more you will smother her and the more she will retreat… until you finally make a lunge to try to keep her…. and she runs away.

You don’t look to a woman to “complete” you. Complete yourself and invite her along for the ride, if she desires it. Don’t put yourself in a compromised position where you are reliant on her for your happiness. Because this, specifically, is what will get you dumped. She will test you, oh she will, to see if you have real strength, to see if you are secure in yourself. It is a funny paradox but true: The less affected you are by her, the more you are “happy anyway”, the less you need her… the more she wants and admires you. She doesn’t want you to be ‘weak for her’. She wants you to be strong so that she can be weak for you.

Live as though she is not central to your life. You already have your center and she is just a bonus. This is sensible. And when it comes to dating, don’t go so far out of your way because of her that you are not living the life you want, that it would be inconvenient if she did not show up. Don’t let them get to you that way. Any chick could blow you out at any time, so even if you are traveling to meet her – have a backup plan; something interesting or constructive to be doing.

Getting overly fixated happens when you are not confident of your ability to do just as well next time around. Or when you start thinking that she is some kind of special bird that you need to try to hang on to.

No she is not and no you fucking do not.

It does not matter if her thighs are made of silk and her bosom perfectly shaped by Aphrodite from the costliest alabaster. It does not matter how well she sucks your cock. There are plenty of other fantastic women out there.

Enjoy the ride.

It does not matter how adoringly she gazes at you (she only does this because of what you are doing for HER… and the moment you stop fulfilling HER ideals she will stop looking at you that way I promise you!)

Enjoy the ride.

She is not “the one”. She is “just a woman”. And there are fucking millions of them. Stop giving a shit, pimp! Cop and blow. Breathe in her feminine scent, enjoy her curves, marvel at this wonderful gift that nature has managed to fashion from stardust, laugh… and let it go. This is fun… remember? Imagine her as an elemental – a force of nature, subject to mysterious flows and currents that flow through her and carry her wherever they will.

All of what she says, applies only to that moment. So when she looks at you adoringly and says “I want you forever”… do NOT take that literally, because that is only how she feels right now. She wants that to be continually reinforced in a sequence of unending present moments. She wants to have that feeling of “I want you forever” tomorrow, but don’t take it literally! It is all about feelings, not logic. She does NOT want to have to adhere to something that she felt yesterday; she wants to feel it all over again today. It was an expression of momentary sentiment, not a contract. The past is gone – especially for her.

Do not even try to analyze her motives. Don’t waste your time on that shit! If you can learn and improve from her blowing you out, do so… but it might not be anything to do with you at all and you are most likely better off not trying to analyze the kitten-basket of her mind. Women do all kinds of things for all kinds of reasons and if you have been paying attention, you will quickly note that – just as with men – not all of those reasons are good, and not all of them make any sense at all. Oh, women love the freedom that “women’s lib” has given them but with freedom comes the fact that they are now not only free to do awesome things but also free to make all the astonishing mistakes that they were being protected from making before.

Sorry but it is true. I see women – like men – making the most spectacularly terrible decisions. Ask them if they are a “sapiosexual” – attracted to high intelligence – and they will say “Oh yes, that is definitely me”. But then watch her choose the loser who just got out of prison who chokes her, hits her around, knocks her up and then leaves. I have just seen it with my own two eyes… many times.

You might be having an amazing, sexual, passionate, loving, wonderful relationship with a woman. But you are far better to assume that the ride could be over tomorrow, because it could. She could be gone any time. And if it stops being fun, it’s time to move on.

Enjoy the ride, and when the ride stops, jump out, say “That was cool! What’s next?”

That, and don’t get married.

Don’t Ever Chase

Women are a reward from life for living awesomely and being the best version of yourself you can be.

Don’t ever chase.

Mystery originally named this idea “Cat string theory”: When you chase the cat it runs away, but if you pull the string away from it, it chases after the string. It’s like that.

When you truly reach a place of abundance and freedom from outcome, when you are living in such a way that rejection does not matter in the least – because you have an awesome life to be getting on with anyway – then you will have that quality that women like.

Trust me, when you are high value, they will chase you. Ever seen female fans screaming and needing steel barriers when their favourite rock star is leaving the building? And trust me, it is not just his autograph that they want.

When you are really on point, you will be amazed at what women will do for you. A woman dreams of finding a man who makes her crave to surrender to him and let him take her.

There is only one way to do this.

Focus on self improvement.

It is a weird paradox, trust me. But it is true. You chase and you chase and they all run away and finally you get it and realize that you have to cure yourself of being the bitch, so you work on yourself. And the very fucking moment that you finally say “I am actually unavailable now, I have too much shit to do to be even thinking about girls”…….

… they appear. The hot ones.

The polarity has reversed. Being permanently available signals that she is the best thing you have going in your life, which subcommunicates that maybe you don’t even deserve her. If your life was that awesome she would have to work and be her best to get a piece of you, and would feel some uncertainty as to whether you are “in the bag”.

I have been at festivals where the ridiculously hot girl gave me the slip all damn weekend, then right at the moment when I had an INSANE task of teardown to do (I was on the crew) and under mega pressure, filthy, fighting a ridiculous load of 300 pound amplifier racks and knowing that it was going to be 110 degrees tomorrow and that if we didn’t get it all done tonight we were going to suffer tomorrow like hell…..

RIGHT at that moment when I was like “I have no more damn time to even THINK about girls any more” she appears and literally rugby tackles me, trying to drag me off to fuck her. And the more I tried to push her away because I had more important things to do than be waylaid by the likes of her, the more she chased.

True story. Cat string theory proven true once again.

A woman does not actually want a man following her around, a man who is weak for her. Unless he is a provider, in which case she will tolerate him.

She wants a man she has to win over. A man who has his own vision, his own path. Whatever your journey through life – if you live as a warrior, fighting on the edge of time against darkness, despair and the universe that wants to tear us apart… then she will want you. It is primal. We live in a savage universe and she is hard wired to seek the best mate she can find. One who also will not just settle for anything second rate from her. But who will have standards and only accept her best, being totally willing to push her away if she disrespects or does not treat her man well.

You will feel it when it clicks in. It is like the poles of a magnet being reversed. Instead of repelling, you attract. To begin with, like learning to surf, you will have a few seconds on the wave before you fall off. But you keep going and you get better. And knowing that it works will cause you to chill out and be more confident, which amplifies the effect even further. Knowing that you are enough and noticing women sparking and connecting with your vibe is a great thing. Keep a close eye out for it – they are pros at making it look as though they are not noticing you. It is so quick that men who are less experienced will not even catch it. It’s fun when you catch them checking you out and is something you can riff on.

Women sense the direction of the poles of the magnet. If you are chasing, they will withdraw. Lean back. Relax. Let her come to you.

When you are really getting it right, women will start hitting on you. Bolder ones will open you. Other times you might think “why is this girl standing next to me”. It’s no accident. If she is standing closer to you than any other man in the club, and she positioned herself there deliberately, she is probably waiting for you to open her. Or she will make some “plausible” reason to ask you a question. In clubs, women normally are on the run from all kinds of dudes following them around. They get good at it. They don’t give guys an opportunity to open them unless they want to be opened. If you have been sized up and are in the crosshairs, she may dance with her girly friends right close to you and they will put on a “show” – acting flamboyant, preening. It is primal. Instinctive. I have pulled in clubs just by standing there leaning back and taking in the dance floor. Looking comfortable and like I don’t give a shit if I pull or not; unlike the ‘thirsty’ guys who she is trying to get away from. They came to the club because they needed something. Trying to get something from her. This repels her. The man she is attracted to is already complete. He does not ‘need’ her in order for his life to be awesome. His life is already awesome whether she is in it or not. That is not to say that he doesn’t like women. He loves women.

But he knows that Women are a reward from life for living awesomely and being the best version of yourself you can be.

Live your best life and stop chasing women in a needy way. Live your adventure. By all means, go out and meet women. Have fun with them. Be playful, light, unattached. Don’t weird them out. Allow them the opportunity to experience you if they desire it, and take note of who shows up. The rewards shall be in proportion to your awesomeness.

Dealing With Rejection

Most men are afraid of interacting with women because of the fear of rejection. This fear is real, huge and can be a massive roadblock, probably the biggest roadblock of all for most. And so they freeze up, don’t approach, don’t say anything, and then even when they do, they are playing not to lose instead of playing to win.

Here’s how to fix it.

Let’s say you meet an attractive looking girl and strike up a conversation with her.. and you just get nothing from her. No interest whatsoever. She may smile politely and make conversation but there are no indicators of interest. Eyes wandering. Flatliner.

Should you be bummed out?

Guys who are not very advanced in the game will be down in the dumps. They had some hopes pinned on it. Hopes that they were going to get something from this girl. That her presence in their life might in some way improve their life.

It shouldn’t affect you.

Ask yourself this: Are you already doing everything in your life that you should be doing FOR YOU? Are you already being all that you can be, for you? Do you like yourself? Is your life awesome? If so, then other people’s opinions of you are invalid. They literally do not matter. If your daily focus is on being the best version of yourself you can possibly be and living the best life you can live – then whether or not some random chick you do not even know approved of you is utterly inconsequential.

If you are thinking that your life is going to change miraculously into paradise because of some girl, you are letting yourself down because YOU should be the one responsible for steering your ship to paradise island. That’s where you are going; girls are welcome to come along for the ride – and they will, if you are on course – but don’t let her steer the ship of your happiness because the moment you do that, she will run it into the rocks and you will be shipwrecked, captain!

You should NEVER look to a girl to make your crappy life awesome, to rescue you from your misery. Because that is SUPER unattractive to girls. It should be the other way round. YOU should be the one with the awesome life. And then girls will see your awesome life and think “I better be nice to him because if I won’t some other girl will because he is awesome.” And then all of a sudden it is ALL different. Whereas before you were a NEEDY BITCH who felt like your life was incomplete without HER (whoever she is), you are now overflowing because you have worked hard to make your life awesome. You will radiate. And THAT radiance is what women like. You will be UNATTACHED and will have what is called FREEDOM FROM OUTCOME. You cannot fake it. She will sniff you out. Don’t even try to break this rule.

Feminine approval should not matter to you in the slightest, because you are already being your most awesome self. And you are doing it for you, not for them, anyway. Some will, some won’t, so what?

Of course that does not mean that you should not make any effort to be attractive. You should make every effort to be attractive. But one girl is just one girl. There are millions. If she is not bright enough to see your awesomeness, then are you sure you really want her anyway? A girl is a girl, which means who the hell knows what she is going to approve of anyway? Her mood is as unfathomable as the ocean – even to her, let alone to you! So enjoy the ride. It is a mistake to put yourself at the mercy of someone else’s whims.

You should be self-evaluating and scoring yourself on how well you are doing in your life. Nobody else’s opinion on that matters unless they are a trusted mentor, who you are actually asking to point out where you can improve. Everyone else can fuck themselves. So long as you are not harming anyone or breaking laws then nobody has the right to tell you how to live your life… and their rejection is irrelevant. You have awesome things to be getting on with anyway, don’t you? If there are no more girls worth approaching in the immediate vicinity, go home and get on with your great life! It really is no loss whatsoever. Another day will come, other girls will come and then when they arrive, you will be even more awesome than you are now.

You should not be trying to get something from her anyway. Thinking only about what you can get from them leads to needy behavior which leads to rejection. You don’t need her and you don’t need her rating! You really don’t.

This does not mean be socially uncalibrated, and just continue with something that she is clearly not into. Don’t do that! This is just about not taking it personally and staying focused.

Rejection only affects you if you take the rejection personally and therefore reject yourself.

By all means use rejection to spot what you might do better, if something becomes obvious. And by all means use women’s reactions to you as a ‘general barometer’ of whether you are succeeding in your own life. But don’t go into a tailspin of negative self talk over rejection. Sometimes the best thing that you can learn is to just move on and not worry about it in the slightest. There are hotter girls, remember. This girl rejected you because she was not awesome enough for you. I have this problem all the time πŸ˜‰ Seriously though – you are the one who should be doing the rejecting. If she does not approve of you, then that is reason enough for YOU to reject her. That’s the frame! Stop being a pleaser and trying to win her over.

It’s her loss, but her loss is not your problem. Because you should be focused on you. This is what leads to being strong inside and not giving a fuck. That doesn’t mean not giving a fuck about anyone, it just means that you already know in yourself that you are doing just fine, and that their silly opinion is irrelevant. You are giving them an opportunity to interact with you and they are not taking it. So what? Move on.

And you will find that when you reach the point of genuinely not caring whether they approve, the approval rate will go up. This is the beautiful paradox of it all.

Learn to enjoy the interaction anyway, whether or not she approves of you. You can still enjoy the shape of her lips, her perfume, all the things that she is, regardless of what kind of a mood she is in. We call this “breathing in the Shakti”. Enjoy the experience, it will put a sparkle in your eye… and if she inspires you to become more, then use that inspiration to spur your self improvement. And then when it is time to exit, exit with a smile.

Next! Like buses, another one will be along in 5 minutes. πŸ˜‰

Winning Is Everything

Winning Is Everything

In a man’s world, winning is everything. There. I said it.

Now. Modern culture wants to eradicate this kind of thinking. Competitiveness is now frowned upon and everyone gets a participation trophy.

Do not fall for that toxic ideological insanity.

Let’s break it down.

Women are biologically driven to select biological winners to mate with. This is called hypergamy and it is hard coded – for a good reason. It is basic survival of the fittest. The strongest genetics and health create traits which we instinctively recognize as “attractive”. Poor health looks less attractive. Deformity is perceived as unattractive – for a reason.

Our primal brains instinctively react a certain way to these traits. This is nature’s game, not ours.

For Men too, the drive to find a suitable mate is arguably one of the very strongest drives. To quote the legendary Mystery (Erik von Markovik) “If you do not reproduce, your genes will be unceremoniously snuffed from existence.”

This is reality for men. Getting laid is thus essential to the survival of your lineage. Are you going to let someone else tell you that your genetics being “consigned to the dustbin of history” doesn’t matter?

This is the reason why men are competitive. It’s because women love a winner and their instinct is to choose the best possible mate that will give her offspring the greatest chance of survival.

This is the way we were made.

So now let’s look at what it takes to become a winner……….

You Were Born A Champion

The first piece of good news is that you are already a winner! Yes, of the approx 250 MILLION sperm in one ejaculation, YOU were the champion swimmer that beat all comers (pun intentional) and got into that healthy egg. Imagine that! A swimming race with 250 MILLION contestants. A DEATH RACE, in fact – where there would only be one survivor and all the rest would die.

All of those 250 million were fighting for their existence, swimming for their very life… and you won. YOU beat every single damn one and got the gold medal called Your Life. The chance to LIVE.

That’s incredible, and it’s true. So there you go, one great reason to feel good about yourself. You beat them all, champ! You have every right to walk down the street with your head held high! Every breath you take is one of sweet victory!

Now it’s time to continue that form. Because your career is not over and no champion can rest upon his laurels for too long and still remain champion. You are in another race and this time it is against all the other champion swimmers from all those other swimming races that produced all the other males that are now sniffin’ around that girl you got your eye on.

Is she going to choose you?

Now you understand why you are competitive. That desire should motivate you – but in the right way. You should be driven to be the best that you can be. Healthy, strong, fast, skilled, knowledgeable. Do not let anyone crush your natural drive to excel, to win, to improve. I do not think that this ‘equalism’ that attempts to bolster the weak and suppress the strong is a good thing. To me it is ideological insanity. Anyway…

You can understand now why champion athletes are so desired by women and admired by men. There is a reason for the instinctive enjoyment of sports. You could even go so far as to say that the entire arena of sport is part of nature’s plan to perpetuate the species. If there is no competitiveness, no winners or losers, and “everyone gets one girl each” then natural selection would no longer be taking place. We would effectively be breeding in weakness… at which point nature will find other ways to cull the herd.

Can you see why people still pay to watch men fight, or compete in other contests of physical prowess, skill and mental strength?

You can now see also why the 80-20 rule is in place: 20% of the men are having 80% of the sex.

So you need to be in the top 20%.

Start taking care of yourself physically. Enrol in a good quality physical training program. Just by doing this you will put yourself in the top 50% because as you know, 50% of success is just showing up. You already overtook those who are sitting on the couch doing fuck all except consuming social media and eating chips.

Think seriously about your dreams. You have strengths. Focus on these things and develop them. Become awesome at something. Being good in your chosen field immediately puts you in the top 20% of something. It’s really about making the best of yourself, for you.

Monk Mode

This attitude has acquired a new moniker: Monk Mode. Monk mode, as illustrated in this video, is the temporary disappearance from public view in order to focus like a laser on self improvement. It means deliberate, strong choices to spend your time well and work hard:

Note, I don’t endorse some of the linguistics that he uses but the fundamental premise of this video is solid.

Do not let the limit of your abilities be known. When you display your greatness it should always appear as though you are in fact capable of even greater things, causing people to wonder what more might be inside you. Do not let your toil and sweat be seen, but work so damn hard that the things which are unattainable to others seem comfortable to you. Do not appear to be struggling to achieve the heights you have achieved. It is all the more impressive if you are head and shoulders above others, yet still within your own comfort zone, looking as though you are barely breaking stride. You will be the source of awe, fascination and inspiration.

Work extraordinarily hard in total privacy and secrecy, so that you can appear effortless in public.

Remember the Count of Monte Cristo – how he “disappeared” entirely from the world – and then when he returned, he was forged anew, strengthened immeasurably by his trials? He was branded falsely as a criminal, imprisoned, forgotten, presumed dead… yet on his return was wealthy beyond compare and able to overpower the enemies who had destroyed him before.

Be you as he. Disappear from the world, and work as though you have a gun to your head, as though are facing the fires of hell and goaded by demons with sharp teeth and red-hot brands. Then return made of pure fire and strength. None need see your tribulations, your weeping as the iron bar overcomes you, as you stagger and fall, and get up again, and again. They shall only see the Man Triumphant.

Alphas, Betas, Sigmas, Kings, Queens, And The Length Of A Man’s Fingers

There is only one type of man who can make a woman give up the bad boys, and be glad she did so. And that is the King archetype. However it is only the highest caliber of woman – the Queen – who can recognize this rare type and is in touch with herself enough to be with him.

It may be all based on finger length…. Science has discovered that the length of a man’s ring and index fingers are intrinsically linked to testosterone levels in the womb and early development. Testosterone levels in early youth determine which personality traits develop in males. There are two basic types that most men fall into:

1) The Alpha Male

The man with the ring finger longer than his index finger had a higher testosterone level as a child. This is your Alpha male. Ever since his early interactions with women as a young man, he was dominant – because the testosterone, and thus the natural dominant instinct, was there. Females instinctively responded strongly and positively to his “leading” behavior, and also instinctively recognize and are attracted to other visible alpha traits such as the strong jawline and upper body musculature, which are also linked to high testosterone. Thus the Alpha male is the guy who won at sports, learned very early on to lead women sexually, lost his virginity young and didn’t really have to make too much of an effort with girls because they make themselves highly available to him and will eagerly fuck him.

As a result, the “most alpha” of these guys grow up, if you can call it that, to become your player bad boys. They don’t have to try harder, so why should they? Immature women continually throw themselves at – and get hurt by – these guys. He is the guy she cries about because he is an asshole to her. And, not knowing any different, she then takes it upon herself to make it her objective to try to win this guy over and make him hers. Which never really happens – primarily because he has options – and there is always another woman who will have sex with him and is willing to give him a free pass on his bad behavior because he excites her.

This guy is generally a good lay because he is dominant, but all the other girls think so too, so she can’t keep him. As soon as a hotter female comes along, off he goes. Yet she would rather share him and compete with other women for him than have a Beta male all to herself. The Alpha may stick around for a while, if a woman is very attractive or otherwise pleasing to him, but as soon as a woman hits a certain age, he is all “enjoy your cats” and he is gone, with an new 18-25 year old chick in his crosshairs.

True “Alpha males” are, interestingly, despite their drive and aggression, very often not life’s high achievers. They quite literally think with their dicks – and would rather be out fucking – because they can – than at their desk building a business empire. They are often deadbeat fathers. A large percentage of men in jail are alphas. They are the tattooed bikers, immature “man children” and the lazy guys who never learned to be high achievers because they didn’t have to be in order to get laid and get by. Women found them irresistible and therefore made it easy for them to get sex whenever they want – and this generally dictates the pattern of their development and path through life.

2) The Beta Male

This man has a longer index finger than ring finger. He had low testosterone growing up. As a result, right from the early school playground establishment of the pecking order, he was not the dominant one. Right from the beginning he was pushed around by males and treated poorly by females, precisely because he did not hold the dominant frame and did not establish that things were going to proceed according to his terms. He became habitually submissive and thus did not learn dominant behavior, thus experiencing continual frustration and difficulty getting laid as a young man. He is the late virgin and attempts to compensate by being a nice guy. This is the guy who bores a woman in bed (if he even gets that far), but will take her shoe shopping AND carry the bags. He likes all her photos on Instagram and hopes (in vain) that she will give him attention in return. He will do anything she asks, in fact, because he hopes that by doing so, it will gain him access to the pussy.

It won’t.

She will call him for a ride home when the Alpha stood her up, he will race to her side, she will cry and tell him her problems, she will feel safe with him because he is non-threatening and validating; then she will brush aside his timid advances, if he even makes any, give him a peck on the cheek and say thank you darling, and then go to bed by herself and rub one out – thinking about the Alpha who ditched her.

Beta males also in their careers are not typically ultra high achievers. They may reach management positions and get good salaries on account of being steadfast, submissive and reliable – but they are generally always someone’s bitch. This also becomes self-fulfilling in their personal relationships; they are working too hard to please others to work on pleasing themselves, and so they tend to dress less stylishly than their alpha counterparts, seeking to play it safe and blend in rather than stand out, which further reinforces their Beta status in the sexual marketplace.

Beta males however make reliable parents. They are generally more caring, devoted and eager to please others around them, often going to great lengths to provide for their families. They are generally functional in all areas of their life except their sex life, which is continually frustrating both for them and, secretly, for their wives and girlfriends – who are either banging an Alpha on the side or wishing they were.

3) The Sigma Male

There is however a third archetype – the rarest of the three – the Sigma or “Lone Wolf” archetype. These men have index and ring fingers of identical length [note , I do not know if this is scientifically established, this is my untested theory but it seems to follow]. They express some dominant characteristics but are not the ones to start fights. They may however be the one to finish them, in unexpected and devastating fashion. Alphas often sense instinctively that the Sigma might be dangerous, and tend to pick softer targets to push around, leaving the Sigma alone.

Most people in fact leave the Sigma alone. He does not fit into the typical hierarchy and ‘pecking order’ – being neither physically dominant nor easily pushed around. This type is often not successful with the majority of women, but may form very strong and intimate connections with his rare counterparts in the female world… if he can but find them.

He intimidates and confuses most women, and the vast majority cannot figure out whether they want him or not, though introspective / alternative types may find him intriguing and mysterious. He is nothing like either the Alpha or the Beta, who by comparison are somewhat ‘basic’. He does not grab the girls by the hair and drag them off to his cave, but he will not be their bag-carrying bitch either. Most women are utterly puzzled by this ‘outsider’ guy and don’t know how to deal with him, so they push him away. As they have predominantly only experienced either Alpha or Beta men, who are easy to categorize and who fit into the patterns of game she has learned, the Sigma remains unfathomable to them and might as well be talking Martian. This infuriates him because he knows inside that he has many superior traits to either of the other types. Can nobody see it?

How he handles his loneliness and frustration is important, because it will dictate the kind of man he becomes.

The Sigma had the drive and enough testosterone not to be dominated, but was also not an early leader or sports captain and did not score easy, abundant wins with women in his early youth. People don’t readily understand him, and so he tends to withdraw, becoming an outsider or loner – reading books, becoming knowledgeable, creative, imaginative and skilled, thinking his own thoughts and learning to win in life through strategy rather than outright dominance. It is as though being neither driven mercilessly by testosterone nor being the submissive victim of the high testosterone of others, enables him to develop higher faculties and thus become something completely different to either of the other two main male archetypes. He may appear slightly androgynous, expressing both masculine and feminine characteristics in his demeanor and dress, and may appear to be balanced between logical and intuitive in his pursuits.

Fast forward to adulthood. The Sigma archetype, through his introverted pursuits and studies, has become a winning strategist in life, perhaps a sole proprietor of a business or an entrepreneur. He may become highly skilled and even ultra competent. But even if he achieves outward success, women still find him intimidating and confusing. He is used to living in his own world, which further develops his uniqueness and pushes him further out of touch with the majority. Most women have no deep experience of him or his world, they don’t know how to categorize him, certainly cannot manipulate him, and most of them are simply not on his level. So he gets rejected / blown out frequently.

This is tragic because this man would actually in many cases be the best choice of all for a woman – if she is not already irreparably damaged from Alpha abuse in her earlier years, and if she can put aside her childish acquisitiveness and roll on his level. The Sigma is more likely to be loyal – and not interested in one night stands; although he may have more than one woman in his life because the bonds he forms tend to be intense and long lasting. He is the guy who knows how to give her multiple orgasms, but will also make her breakfast. And it will be rosemary scrambled egg with French toast, served with a champagne mimosa and silver cutlery. He’s a high achiever after all…

The Sigma will take her shoe shopping too; however he will not carry her bags and will not follow her around like a puppy. He will drop her off at the mall and arrange to meet her in 45 mins, and he will be on time too, and he will expect her to do the same. Because Punctuality is the Politeness of Kings.

But most women are still foolishly chasing the Bad Boy Alpha and will not give the ultra-competent Sigma the time of day.

Thus the Sigma generally “unplugs” from the social and sexual marketplace – and in the modern post-feminist world, many Sigma males find themselves alone. They have become the lone wolf archetype, lonely Kings in their castle with everything except a Queen. This is because the Queen archetype, his natural consort, is also extremely rare. This is the woman who has it together on all levels and is not intimidated by the Sigma’s high intelligence and Mastery of his immediate environment. Rather, she delights in his heady world, finding him fascinating and enjoying his unusual traits. But the King also will not tolerate any Princess behavior or immaturity – and this vastly diminishes the number of options available to him… because most women in the modern world have been already damaged by The Deadly Isms and by the Alpha / beta dichotomy that has come to prevalence post-feminism, and which leaves them bitter, confused and possibly even broken by the age of 25-30.

This requires explanation. Most women are unhappy in the modern post-feminist world because their liberation, rather than giving them the life of their dreams, now has them caught between a rock and a hard place, forced to “choose” between Alphas and Betas. The Alpha will fuck her well but will break her heart, because he doesn’t give a shit, and post feminism / social media has given him even more options for conquest than ever before. The always-available Beta will provide for her at the drop of a hat, but will not make her insides tingle. So she remains unfulfilled on a deep level – and when women hit around 30-35, all of a sudden…. the Alphas start to go for younger women. She either locks down a provider Beta and grudgingly has sex with him, without much spark, or she ends up alone with her cats, wishing her bad boy would come back but also knowing he is bad news.

The immature woman is fixated on trying to capture an Alpha and turn him into the kind of man she wants him to be. This objectifying behavior is not healthy and sets up a dysfunctional pattern that is in many cases never resolved – because the Alpha will not change in any meaningful way except superficially (read: he learns to say the right words if it will get him more pussy, but otherwise continues not to give a shit). And all the while she chases this man she is off her center, and does not develop the meaningful skills and attributes that will turn her into a high achiever in her own right. She remains as a Princess and does not become a Queen.

Modern women, liberated by feminism but not necessarily wise in the ways of men, thus often resort to attempting the ‘best of both worlds’; juggling Alpha-on-the-side with a Beta husband – but this requires infidelity and a double life. Dishonesty is dysfunctional, feels rotten inside and it all usually ends badly with broken marriages, bitterness, confusion and blame, despite the fact that it seemed like a good idea at the time.

If a woman finds a Sigma, the best thing she could do is devote herself to him. If she would but have the courage to kneel at his feet and say “I’m yours, make me into what you want me to be” – the true King will not abuse her, but he will raise her up, putting her on her throne, taking extraordinary care of her and initiating her in the royal arts and the higher life that his many years of strategy and learning have prepared him for so well; as she too initiates him into her royal arts of love and life.

That’s the fairytale. However, sadly in most cases, the Alphas get to the women first; especially the hot / highly sexual ones, and this often ruins them. The technical term for such women is “Alpha widows”. Often these women did not have strong fathers threatening to kick the shit out of the bad boy if he tried to fuck his daughter. This may be more than a coincidence but that is a topic for another essay. Anyway the Alpha Widows may end up young mothers and / or damaged; either with PTSD from abuse, or with dark cravings which push them toward further abusers or even toward destructive practices such as prostitution, drug abuse and/or “dark BDSM” which is really a term for sexual abuse addiction.

Going down this path may leave her, finally, as “damaged goods”. The King archetype does not want damaged goods, does not wish to be Daddy to someone else’s children, and is not going to let his woman cheat on him either. He is smart enough to catch her in the act (another reason why he is intimidating to some women), and he will be furious too because she has dared to shatter his idealism. And he is certainly not fun when he is furious. The King will not put up with any crap. He won’t take it lying down and he has very high standards, higher than most people are used to being around.

There is a further aspect to this, which is that the Sigma archetype is the most likely to become, in the end, a highly skilled lover, owing not to innate assertiveness but to his “hacker” nature, his attentiveness to nuance and his desire to understand and master the inner workings of things. If he can achieve this, he stands a chance to take his woman far higher than any bad boy ever did, and he has the potential to provide a passionate yet nurturing love which can cure her, permanently, of her immature addiction to the bad boy, and fill her eyes with sparkle. He is also far more likely to be loyal and honest to those around him, but may be demanding as he expects people to meet him on his level. And there is, sadly, an awful lot of damaged goods out there now.

The Sigma archetype makes up the mavericks, the introverted startup business owners, edgy outsiders, high achievers, aloof Kings and lone wolves of the world. Watch out for the Sigma type. If positively aspected / “enlightened”, they may turn out as “Kings” – leaders of business, rock stars, high achievers and so on. This man takes personal responsibility for his circumstances in life and rises through industry as well as ingenuity.

However if these men become troubled, brooding, psychologically damaged and “endarkened”, they may develop “dark triad” characteristics – Machiavellianism, narcissism and psychopathy – becoming criminal masterminds, hackers, edgy lone wolf types, deviant and dangerous in their ambitions, while becoming expert manipulators and grand deceivers in relationships.

Wrap Up: Overcoming Your Traits

One might think as a result of this that our lives are predetermined. However, very much of dominant / submissive behavior is acquired early on and deeply ingrained, but not permanently so. Like many other deeply learned behaviors and responses, it can be changed. Hence we have game – which at its best is a deep dive into the psyche and the transformation of negative learned behaviors. Note also that these are archetypes and people may carry more than one aspect. There are many shades of grey.

A Beta can learn to be assertive through self-esteem training and to raise their testosterone levels through diet, exercise and other pursuits.

Similarly an Alpha can learn to shut the fuck up and actually listen for once and make an effort to please others rather than just himself, balancing things out.

As for the Sigma archetype – he should strive not to permit his loneliness to cause him to fall into troubled, brooding darkness; learning instead that most strategic of traits: Patience. He should have faith that if he stays the course, his Queen will come to him at last. He should make an effort not to become too abstracted into his thoughts, and remain relatable. He should also take care of himself physically, “live in his body” rather than just in his head, and avoid self-destructive pursuits.

For women – seek not to acquire men as objects in the same way that you acquire other things that have value to you. A partner is not a thing to be acquired in the way that you acquire an item you want at the mall; rather, a harmonious relationship with others and the formation of healthy bonds will arise from having a healthy relationship first of all with yourself, and from learning that you only get out of relationships what you put in. The Princess expects someone else to make her problems go away, whereas the Queen is able to be the agent of change. She also makes an adroit choice of partner; avoiding immature, abusive and weak men as she understands them to be a waste of time. Nurture yourself and put in your inner work, becoming the best version of yourself that you can be.

All of us are to some extent broken, as the saying goes – but we can all heal, and as Hemingway said, being broken is how the light gets in.

To find your Queen, you must first become a King – and to find your King, you must first become a Queen.